New Years Resolutions...or how about an Upgrade?

Come New Years Day the resolutions come...unthought out word and statments that come flying out of our mouths...before we know it we have made a resolution to loose weight...get organized...stop smoking...or how about eat healthier. The truth is all you need is an upgrade I life. Resolutions can be broken...but when you upgraded something who wants to downgrade. Beyonce and Jay-Z don't sing 'let me downgrade you' no its 'let me upgrade you'...why cause who doesn't what whats better then what level their at now.  But upgrading means steps...you get to the next level by taking a step up from where your at and choosing to not be where you were. So what does an upgrade look like...if your goal is to look weight...upgrade yourself...talk the first step...that might be start walking...then begin running...its not taking a plung into the impossible. You have to take steps to get a full upgrade!!! So choose do you want a New Years resolution or an Upgrade?

Pen Pals...can get a girl talking again

So recently actually with in the last two weeks I have reached out and have arranged to pen pal with what I thought would be a few people (is actually 8). The pen paling is for letters through snail mail. Now I know why would you want to do this when you could do what I am doing right now an just type a quick letter on the computer and send it via email. On email you could still get into decorating the envelope and sending pictures. There is that special touch though of handwriting and knowing that person took the time and effort to put there thoughts down. The feel of the paper. The excitement of is it here? does the story go on? what more is there to learn? It is slower pace. An I think that's what I like. We as a society have become so quick to push a button and send a message and click to receive a message there is no waiting. We don't know what it means to slow down cause everything is here and now. I live in California...three of my pen pals are in the United States but the others are out in other countries. I look forward to learning about their lives and where they are from...even those in the United States. Everyone is different from where, how and why they live the way they do. I think being able to share your story with someone is great and to be able to share and exchange it with a strange is even greater.

I have since received one letter and now have sent out six letters (1 was a reply back). I think its great and my niece is doing it as well. Both of us are writing to people with in our age groups. I think that is the key thing to is keeping it to people around your age so you have similar interest and life experiences going on.

So if your interested like I had been for so long pick up a pen and a pen pal as well. lol  - until next time cheers!!!        

Make Sure Negative is Out of Here

Dump that which is holding you back. I know easier said then done but seriously there is so much more out there that is within your grasp when you learn to let go of the cement blocks around your neck. Now don't get me wrong this does not mean end a marriage without trying counseling, quite your job without having another one lined up or turn your life all the way upside down cause you feel that something just doesn't feel quite right. I'm talking about those people who are negative and are hanging around just to tell you your every bad move. I'm sure everyone can think of at least one person who is the negative person in your life. Some times its a family member and you can't cut the ties. So what do you do you take a step back. You create a personal space that is very well known to them and you. Sure your nice and everything is okay but you don't engage for the fun of it. When you have negativity around you it starts wearing on you. You might not notice this wear at first but it will show its self eventually. 

When we become negative we forget our dreams and our goals. We live in shadows. No matter if negativity is directed at you negative people within our lives is just plan bad for our own lives. So shake them off or create a personal space you can see from the heavens. Make sure you are in not a disillusion world but a well balanced world. Balanced is the key world and if you have to break from someone keep it simple. Its not in your or their best interest to draw it out.  - Cheers till next time.  

Happy Valentine's Day!

So it is the time of love being in the air. It seems their are more couples at this time then at any other time. I have a question has Valentine's Day become to commercialized? I don't asked that because I'm not apart of a couple this year or because I hate Valentine's Day. I actually will be driving my niece's boyfriend up to see her since he moved away from her and they wouldn't be able to see each other if I didn't drive him the rest of the way up to her. So it's not that I don't believe that romantic gestures shouldn't be done, it's just that it seems to have become like another holiday. Out running around finding that gift, trying to out do last year's gift. I remember it was just enough to sit and get a house alone and cook dinner for my boyfriend at the time. It was nice to get a gift but I enjoyed the company and cooking for him. Why? Cause he loved my cooking and he would tell me how great it was an how he enjoyed my company. I watch my friends now an its like down to the wire shopping trying to get a gift just so they can say they got one, even if they are cooking a meal and have gotten a little something. They have to get the whole thing....a big gift. They don't look at the cooking a nice meal as a form of giving a nice gift. I'm sorry but cooking over a hot stove and trying to keep your makeup nice and look nice is hard work....lol. Cause who has the time completely get ready after they cook (the food would get cold)...my I throw off my apron go to the bathroom freshen up my makeup and wallah...but I get ready first. Its nice to get a gift but remember its not about the gift....though DO NOT buy last minute a cheesy gift you know will piss the person off if you do. Its better to be humble an go empty handed then to be a jerk. Remember it's a couples day not a me day. It's not a day for women. Is not a day for men. It's a day for both to be treated equally with love. With that go have a Happy Valentine's Day - Cheers till next time!    

Single on Valentines's Day

Well its 3 days left till Valentine's Day. I will probably be spending it with my nieces and nephew again. Have not found that special one to fill my life with hugs and kisses yet. An I before was not fine with that but have found myself at a place in my life that I am centered and can be okay with it. I don't need to have a man to be happy I can be happy on my own. I'm working at simplifying my finances, my room that I have, working on a few projects so their out of the way, and just trying to enjoy what I have. I want to work more on my poetry and photography to get better at them....here is a picture I took behind my library just happen to be perfect for Valentine's Day.

Feeling pinned down

Sometimes it can feel like the world is pinning you down. Finances, family problems, demands, sick, and a broken heater which is just making the house freak'n cold. Well some times a change of direction is what you need. Some times you need to set the finances straight and take control don't let them rule you. Same goes for the family problems, demands, being sick and well that heater might need a good swift kick. Then again you might have to rely on a professional. An that's okay. That's what professionals are there for.

There is a time to call in help. Whether its calling in a mediator for a family issue, a doctor when your sick or a financial adviser. Its a matter of determining the problem, assessing the damage and whether you can recover on your own. So when you pinned down determine, asses and call in the professional if need be. You'll find that you'll get a lot farther if you do. An their are a lot of resources out there that are free or low cost that house different types of professionals.

Don't forget to ask family for help their there for you through thick and thin....but remember asking and not taking advantage is the key.

Act Your Age

Being the youngest or any age some one at one time or another thinks they have the right to tell you what to do. Being the youngest I get told what to do all the time an this is despite the fact of my age. You would think that once you hit your late twenties and early thirties this would be a sign to others that your old enough to life your life without being told how to life it. Well said to say your not. At least what I have come to understand is you are still the baby.

The thing is to make a stand. Don't let people boss you around you've earned your age. You've gone through those years some of us have gone through different life trials then others. But when it comes to it you have earned your right to call your self an adult and make your own decisions.

Speak your mind don't let those people walk over you. Set deadlines and make sure things are well stated, no questions to be asked if there is an instance of borrowing or buying. Don't commit to anything without this. Make sure your compensated for your time and effort. Your time is valuable don't be talked into anything else whether you would have been busy or not.

This is sometimes common sense but even I have been subject to falling for being taken advantage of whether the person realizes it or not. Its best to set ground rules and life by them so it doesn't happen in the future. - Cheers till next time